What do we want from conversation

I guess sometimes it’s straight up lack of nutrition or over-caffeination lol but also maybe it’s because I enter conversations with a different goals. I think I enter conversations not just to arrive at an idea but a feeling. And I think I subconsciously want to feel that others and I haven’t just arrived at some intellectual end point but have a shared emotional state. That we have our messy feeling state in line. And I think doing so makes for longer conversations that don’t necessarily end when a conclusion has been drawn. It’s asking for a deeper confirmation of belief.

And I think that way of connecting frustrates. Because it’s not looking for expediency. It’s looking for acceptance and trust.